Consistency Redefined: How To Get Back On Track

Hi there! It’s been a while since I last pressed “send.”

It’s not that I didn’t have time to write.
Nor did I lack motivation or run out of inspiration.
I’m as fired up as ever to help you level up, and I’m bursting with ideas.

So why has it been four months since my last letter?

The “official story” my brain would present: Life happened. I was too busy. I had to focus on my business. My clients were facing challenges and needed extra support. I travelled. XYZ was more important.

And the list goes on.

Sound familiar? Maybe in your case, it's your health. A work project. Or a skill you’ve been trying to master.

What’s one area you’ve fallen off and want to get back on track?

Hold that in mind because what I’m about to share changed the way I think about consistency. And more importantly, it gave me a sense of confidence and peace I haven’t felt before.

I know it can do the same for you.

When we fall off track, our first instinct is to ask, “Why did I fall off?"

Seems reasonable. Find the cause, fix the problem.

But “why?” is a dangerous question.

Neuroscientists call this confabulation: your brain invents a plausible-sounding explanation to avoid the discomfort of the real answer.

It’s not malicious, just lazy. Our brains are wired by millions of years of evolution to conserve energy. They settle for the first "good enough" answer and move on.

But the first thing that comes to mind is rarely the real cause.

If you buy into that story, the loop is closed.
You stop questioning, and end up with wrong solution.
For me, it was:

All great solutions… to the wrong problem.

Here’s what most people don’t realize:

It’s like using the wrong map. Every turn is wrong, and you blame yourself instead of questioning the map.

It will keep your ego safe rather than help you grow. This creates a tendency to attribute failures to external circumstances rather than internal patterns.

So I started asking a better question:

Not “Why did I fall off?”

But "What's actually at the root of my inconsistency — and how do I fix it for good?”

I sat with that question for a while.
The answer didn’t come immediately, but when it did, it hit me like a bolt of lightning:

I’ve had the wrong definition of consistency my entire life!

I bet you have too.

I thought consistency meant never stopping. A perfect, unbroken streak. And every time I fell off, I saw it as failure and beat myself up with guilt.

This drained my motivation and made restarting harder. So I’d delay. And the longer I delayed, the harder it got.

The most dangerous part? This pattern becomes a habit through repetition. Each time you delay, you make it easier to delay next time—until you do it by default.

Self-doubt becomes a constant companion. Self-sabotage a certainty.

And it doesn’t stay contained to one area because:

Every time you’re about to set any new goal, or get back on track, you instantly get gut-punched by a familiar voice: "What's the point? I'll just fall off again."

Here’s the irony: you’re not actually afraid of the task in front of you or falling off, but of yourself—of how you’ll make yourself feel if you fall off.

You’re suffering from something that hasn’t even happened yet. But falling off is inevitable. It’s a natural consequence of being human and doing hard things.

Here’s the shift that changed the game for me:

Again and again. Whenever you fall off.

This perspective freed me from living in the shadow of the fear of falling off. I stopped trying to white-knuckle perfect streaks. I stopped building elaborate systems to prevent failure.

And redirected all my energy into the only thing that matters: how fast I get back on.

Not "How do I never fail?"

But "How do I make restarting so easy that it becomes automatic?”

So I began training it like a muscle with a workout program. The more reps I got in, the easier it became.

Once you know, deep down, that no matter how many times you get knocked down, you’ll get back up quickly…

Fear loses its grip. You stop bracing for impact before you’ve even begun. You stop burning energy on “what ifs” and channel all of it into the task right in front of you.

Operating at full capacity, you face your goals with confidence backed by your “restarting” superpower…

You’ve got the shift. Now put it to work.

In my next newsletters, I'll share battle-tested rules that make restarting near-effortless: no willpower or "feeling like it” required.

Check them out here:

But here's Rule #1 so you can start today:

Motivation follows action; it doesn’t precede.

Make the first step so small your mind can’t argue:

Then high-five yourself. And repeat the next day. This is enough for now: you’ve flipped from defense to attack mode.

You’ll be shocked at how fast momentum returns.

Come back next week for the rest of the playbook.

So… what are you restarting this week?

Hit reply and tell me. I respond to every reply.

Your partner in success,

Ovi